It has been demonstrated that in the first four or five
years of life synaptic connections are made in the brain which direct a child`s
behaviour for the future..........in fact this process continues past
puberty..........and that if clear limits to behaviour are not made during this
period it is virtually impossible to impose them at a later time except by
enforcing conscious changes by various therapies to protect themselves and to
protect the public. And that includes prison for adults or for youths a young
offenders institution.
Just before Christmas and where families include young children,
these few days and those just after the holiday will probably have contained events that will be remembered
for years to come such is the capacity of children to retain so much of the
sensory input to which they are exposed. In evolutionary terms it seems simple
enough; if outcomes are forgotten or impeded mistakes could be repeated or
positive actions overlooked so reducing the possibility of successful progress
to adulthood. A generation ago social cohesion was assisted by low level
authority figures being able to tell robust children that certain actions were
forbidden or unacceptable and more often than not a lesson in acceptable
behaviour was learnt. When park keepers regularly patrolled the parks, when bus
conductors walked the upper deck of the Clapham omnibus, when teachers could
keep control by the accurate throwing of a piece of chalk at the child talking
at the back of class. Now, owing in a large part to a few very bad and
sometimes evil professionals, sadistic policemen, paedeophilic teachers and
priests and multi murdering doctors and nurses very often the first time a
wayward child is firmly told "no" by somebody in authority, that
somebody is a police officer.
Those households which do not enforce reasoned rules and discipline upon their children to immunise them against the effects of "non immunised" children ie their feral untamed peers, face misery. Childrens` bad behaviour is similar to a disease like measles where the "herd" effect of vaccination is paramount in keeping the disease to a minimum level of spread. Currently owing to misguided policies of government over the last thirty years in the fields of law, welfare and education we are in a situation where compulsory "this" or compulsory "that" will have to be employed so that the desirable change in direction can be achieved. Youth offending is perhaps the most depressing part of the Criminal Justice System. To incarcerate teenagers because society and family constraints on bad behaviour have failed is depressing for everyone involved. To avoid this outcome very often the most positive gift a parent can give a child is the meaning of "no".
I concur wholeheartedly!
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